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Leaving an abuser can be dangerous. Consider taking these precautions:

• Call a women's shelter or domestic violence hotline for advice. Make the call at a safe time — when the abuser isn't around — or from a friend's house or other safe location.

• Pack an emergency bag that includes items you'll need when you leave, such as extra clothes and keys. Leave the bag in a safe place. Keep important personal papers, money and prescription medications handy so that you can take them with you on short notice.

• Know exactly where you'll go and how you'll get there.

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Protect your communication and location

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An abuser can use technology to monitor your telephone and online communication and to track your location. If you're concerned for your safety, seek help. To maintain your privacy:

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• Use phones cautiously. Your abuser might intercept calls and listen to your conversations. An abusive partner might use caller ID, check your cellphone or search your phone billing records to see your call and texting history.

• Use your home computer cautiously. Your abuser might use spyware to monitor your emails and the websites you visit. Consider using a computer at work, at the library or at a friend's house to seek help.

• Turn off GPS devices. Your abuser might use a GPS device on your vehicle or your phone to pinpoint your location.

• Frequently change your email password. Choose passwords that would be difficult for your abuser to guess.

• Clear your viewing history. Follow your browser's instructions to clear any record of websites or graphics you've viewed.

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Where to find help

In an emergency, call 911 or your local emergency number or law enforcement agency. The following resources also can help:

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• Someone you trust. Turn to a friend, loved one, neighbor, co-worker, or religious or spiritual adviser for support.

• National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-SAFE (800-799-7233; toll-free). Call the hotline for crisis intervention and referrals to resources, such as women's shelters.

• Your health care provider. A health care provider typically will treat injuries and can refer you to safe housing and other local resources.

• A local women's shelter or crisis center. Shelters and crisis centers typically provide 24-hour emergency shelter as well as advice on legal matters and advocacy and support services.

• A counseling or mental health center. Counseling and support groups for women in abusive relationships are available in most communities.

• A local court. A court can help you obtain a restraining order that legally mandates the abuser to stay away from you or face arrest. Local advocates might be available to help guide you through the process.

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It can be hard to recognize or admit that you're in an abusive relationship — but help is available. Remember, no one deserves to be abused.